You know those weeks (or months or years) when nothing seems to work? No matter what you do or try, nothing changes or moves forward?
I’ve had my share – sometimes I think I’ve had someone else’s share as well 🙂 It’s frustrating, it lowers your energy and enthusiasm and makes you doubt yourself.
It took me a while to make sense of it and realise that ‘dry spells’ are part of the process, or the journey from here to there.
Life is seasonal (Ecclesiastes 3). There are seasons when we plant, seasons when we reap.
And there are seasons when we can’t hurry things along. We can’t hurry God along – He has His timing and things will happen at the optimum time. Truth is – when it comes to being a Christian, you’re either all in or all out. There’s no sitting on the fence. You have to develop your trust muscle 🙂
” We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God—those whom he has called according to his plan.” Romans 8:28 [GW]
When things aren’t going the way we’d hoped or expected and our wonderful dreams are fast becoming a frustrating nightmare or a might-never-happen-at-all-mare, this is when we need to fall back on our faith. Faith that God is never late, faith that God is working behind the scenes, pushing everything into place for your breakthrough.
“Come close to God, and he will come close to you.” James 4:8a [GW]
It’s SO easy to decide to take matters in your own hands, but trust me on this, it never works out! Ask God to open doors for you and to speak to people about you.
James 1:5 tells us to ask God for wisdom to know what to do. Do this if you’re not making the progress you hoped for. And ask for the wisdom to see if you’re chasing the wrong thing. Pray for wisdom and guidance to ensure that your plan and purpose for your life are the same as God’s. And check your motives:
You don’t have the things you want, because you don’t pray for them. 3 When you pray for things, you don’t get them because you want them for the wrong reason—for your own pleasure. James 4:2b,3 [GW]
And while you’re waiting for your breakthrough, don’t do nothing or sit and fret. Work on your answers to the 10 questions below.
- What seeds are you planting? Are you doing everything you can, right now, to make your goals happen? Are you reviewing your goals on a regular basis? Are you reading through the benefits of achieving your goals to keep your motivation high?
- Are you praying over your goals? Are you praying over your goals with friends? What is God is saying to you?
- Are you reading the Bible and worshipping and praying [at least most days]?
- Do you have an attitude of gratitude? Do you write down everything you are grateful for that day in your journal, every day? It doesn’t have to be a fancy journal – a hard-backed notebook will do. Are you actively showing appreciation to others?
- What are you saying? If negative stuff is constantly coming out of your mouth, you’ll talk yourself out of everything! Speak positive, Biblical works over yourself, your future and other people. All the time.
- Have you spoken to the mountain? Jesus told them. “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” (Matthew 17:20) [Remember – a mustard seed is incredibly small!]
- Are you being critical or judgemental about others who seem to be making better progress than you are? This will only damage you. Peter 3:10 urges “Let him who wants to enjoy life and see good days keep his tongue free from evil and his lips from guile.”
- Have you turned to your mentors for help and advice? Mentors can be people you know or books or YouTube videos. Learn from those who have gone before you & succeeded. Have you thought about using a life coach to support you and help you find clarity?
- Are you helping others to achieve their goals and celebrating their successes? It might seem like rubbing salt into the wound to participate in someone’s victory when you feel that you’re going nowhere, but the alternative is to feel jealous or bitter or resentful. These only contribute to your ‘stuckness.’
- Have you got an inspirational ‘motto’? One of mine is “So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” Galatians 6:9 Find Bible verses and famous quotes that resonate with you. Remember Churchill’s famous exhortation, “Never, never, never give up!”
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